You're Special Yet You're Not

So are you special?

Everyone has their way...

Everyone has their own way of explaining everything else, even if it means making up stories that are far from the physical truth.

We just need to know when we're making up stories and when it's the actual truth because with the way that humans think, we have a tendency to screw up the truth with the stories we create.

And it's okay that we're wrong, as long as we learn to correct ourselves and move on. But how do we? I've done so with some, but how about the rest? Isn't life such a conundrum?

Coming out of the Woods

"Ah... The timing where I used to feel massively depressed over the last few months. Now I'm pensive and reflective and searching for questions and answers to preempt my future issues.

It is both good and bad to be single, and I'm learning to really cherish the singlehood only after almost 1 month from what has happened. And the failures I've been experiencing... Well... they are going to be wonderful lessons to keep my heart alert and communicating.

I cherish the friendships that I still have. I cherish the friendships that I've lost due to massive understandings. I miss the good old days of innocence but love the ability to have perspectives.

As shared by Trevor Sze, it is the transition between ignorance and facing reality that is happening at this age - coming to terms with our inflated delusions of grandeur with the harsh reality. I love this learning and I shall not lose my drive to fight for what I've always believed in. But at least now, it has to face reality."

Poem: Just Maybe

If there was a chance we could've given it a shot,
But if there's something better, then it's better not,
It is not about the wasted chance,
It's simply what we had once,
The romance might has lost its heat,
But it was still a powerful meet,
Life goes on in its powerful stride,
It's time to grow up, we cannot hide.

Little Crisis

"Had a little crisis this afternoon regarding who I am, what I am and where I'm going to go.

Interesting how just observing others and going through one's own reactions can give you so much about yourself. I finally understood what it meant when I was asked regarding my big picture - the lacking of it and the feeling of complete loss when you realise you might have lost what you thought was your big picture.

What hurts more is the fact that you've been covering up all your insecurities with everything else rather than finding the meaning of your own life, even if you champion it. I guess that's why the more experience you get (ie older), you inevitably have to either a. chuck the experience aside, or b. face the truth and grow the **** up.

Again, Growing Pains."

Quote 3

"It doesn't take much to change a life. A true connection, a true understanding, and the ability to accept fully, is the key to changing a life - to help the person be himself/herself.

Lovely." - Seow Yi Zhe

Will Smith Quote and Thoughts

"I once thought this was rather angry and unfair of Will Smith to say this because we should all be good people... But after what I've been through I finally understand why he said this... And it's more of a truth of the matter because when we had to fend for ourselves we need to know how to separate who are the true partners and who are the opportunists."

Poem: Release and Reach

Release me from this cage of inability
To read and understand
Release me from the shackles of my mind
To imagine the worst of my life
But for now I'm released
Because I know our disease
Is forever gone
For we have won
Against our own thoughts.

We're free from each other
We're free from our demons
Of uncertainty
And hope for eventuality.

Alas, peace has come
But the work has just begun
To create my life
And be my ultimate self.

Exclamation 1

Caught in the middle of two great things
Can't get either.

Caught in the middle of too many ideas
Can't execute any.

Caught in the middle of the perfect opportunity
Can't finance it.

Caught in the best position to create something new
Can't wait to make it happen.

Java Jazz Reflections

"Some things learned from Java Jazz Festival Day 1:

1. Sound quality is imperative - it can make a really good performance really horrendous for the audience
2. Live is the true test of how good an act is. There's no true substitute to experiencing music live.
3. Letting yourself go into the music fully is a very powerfully liberating feeling for a person who thinks too much
4. Always sleep well the night before a festival because you'll tire yourself out dancing to the music.
5. In order to reach the highest levels possible, a positive and unpretentious energy is needed for a musician.
6. Any negativity saps an experience, even if it's in your head."

 

"Some things learned from Java Jazz Festival Day 2:
1. Audiences can kill the music majorly.
2. Sometimes the least expected places give you the best music.
3. Groove is the key to your soul
4. Dance through all music - you'll really know what music makes you move and what you are moving to.
5. Some shows are worth waiting for, ESPECIALLY RH Factor
6. Music can inspire you to get off your tired bones and just get out there to live life and enjoy
7. Fodder for compositions and arrangements!"

 

"Lessons learned from Java Jazz Festival Day 3:
1. Even if you're awesome, a so-so band will kill your music
2. Even if you suck, a great band will make you sound damn awesome
3. Musicians work incredibly hard to create a cogent setlist and practise really hard to get to where they are, do NOT think it is easy to reproduce what they do
4. The audience might not kill the music of a great band, but they still can kill your mood
5. The amount of work that goes into organising a festival AND livestream it AND be able to give quality that stuns people is incredible. Only the strongest can do it.
6. Anything is possible if you build it slowly. Just keep working." 

Dream Tattoo (If I'll ever get one)

This was designed by Joe Tan, and is quite representative of me...

Discussion of Why Do We Like Bad Boys/Girls?

"I believe I understand the psyche of the usual reason why girls like bad boys and why guys like bad girls.

It's simple. Girls like to believe they can make a bad boy good, and make a positive change. Guys like bad girls because they believe they can tame the girl. Both include egos sadly.

Best way to love and like someone is to accept the person as he/she is and let the person be. That's when whether the person is good or bad you'll still know how to appreciate the person.

Would I be accurate to say that?"

• Tan Wen-Bin It's a huge sweeping statement, but in the gold, basically

  
  
• Yunos Erksan Girls just want a challenge. Its like a mind game or tug of war.
  They feel great if they achieve what they want. So guys should give them what they want and they will comibbg running for more.

  
  
• Meryl Joan Lee Cliched points, but neither can you "tame" a "good" boy/girl. So date whoever and roll with the punches.

  
  
• Yunos Erksan Typed wrongly. "Shouldnt give"

  
  
• Jens Bunge Actually, I love nice girls...but right, most girls like "bad guys", and not the "nice guys"...

  
  
• Jason Benedict Cruz "Bad" girls with tatoo and pink highlights in their hair..not bad,I like.

  
  
• Julianne Toh hmm. real bad boys get tiring very fast (not dependable, too much drama). so personally, i don't think it's about being bad or good. i think it's about the excitement of being with someone fun? it's enough being cheeky, knowing when to play hard to get, being spontaneous and pushing things just a little bit. so, mostly good but a little bit bad?

  
  
• Reeve Sim Guan Ze Oh man. U got it all wrong. It all boils down to individual preferences. Most would love to have some fun and excitement and anticipation in their love lives. Just happen that most 'bad' boys n girls are more obvious with providing those things. Doesn't mean 'nice' boys n girls can't give u all of those.
  
  Bottom line: doesn't mean u gotta be bad to get the girls. But being sincere and true to yourself will get you the right ones.
  
  Food for thought, please.

  
  
• Jason Benedict Cruz Wanna woo a girl? Do trhis song for her: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=udZ_o727M68 - them birds gonna fall for the Funk. Get yo Funk on bruthas!

  

  Super Bad James Brown

  
  
• Max Averi Teng Good or bad don't matter when I can give a girl averi teng

  
  
• Jason Benedict Cruz Good one

  
  
• Jason Benedict Cruz MAXimum BFE

  
  
• Yi Zhe Seow Btw in case you haven't noticed I am overgeneralising in most sense and kinda talking shit

  
  
• Jens Bunge Hahaha...but actually, studies revealed that women during ovulation, due to their hormones, prefer more "masculine" ,"alpha-type" men (what you can call the "bad" boys), because this ensures their offspring will get the strong genes of such a potential mate. Outside of ovulation time they seem to prefer the less masculine looking and behaving men, who display more of the caring qualities, because those are more likely to stay by their side and help them raise their children....and of course, self-confidence and sense of humour are also some of the features that women like in men, which the "bad boys" (humor = laughing = showing teeth = an expression of aggression and is quite different from being nice = smiling = an expression of appeasement in animal life) show more often than the "nice guys" who too easily land in the friend zone...